I was floating around the Internet and came across The Mindful Mathematician’s A Letter to Frustrated Parents
I was never taught to make sense of numbers, I was taught one way to solve every problem, every problem had ONE way, memorize these steps and you will be able to solve this problem. Sorry if you can’t remember the steps. This is how we do it. I was robbed. I was not taught to persevere and try to make sense of the problem… who cares what it means, here’s how you do it, just do this.
I would feel sorry for you, but I cannot accept that this is truly what happened to you in school. As much as I get irritated by some of what I hear about elementary school teachers, I cannot believe that anyone took this approach.